Let’s be real. Wedding planning can feel like a full-time job, and for many brides, it’s easy to slip into the habit of taking on everything.
But your groom is more than capable of handling some of the to-dos. Not just because it takes the load off you (which, let’s face it, is a huge plus), but also because this is his wedding too!
So, let’s talk about the 12 wedding tasks your groom can totally rock, making him an active part of the journey rather than just showing up on the big day.
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1. Managing the Guest List (Especially His Side!)
This might not sound like a big deal, but trust me—it is. While you might have a good handle on your family and friends, he needs to step up and confirm the names and addresses of his side of the guest list. No more “I think my aunt’s address is still the same” vibes!
2. Choosing His Groomsmen & Their Attire
Picking the groomsmen is his job, and so is making sure they know what they need to wear, where to be, and when. The last thing you want is a last-minute scramble because his best man didn’t get the memo about renting a suit.
3. Planning the Rehearsal Dinner
Traditionally, the groom’s family hosts the rehearsal dinner, but even if that’s not the case, your fiancé can take the lead on planning it. Finding a great spot, finalizing the menu, and coordinating with your families? This one’s all his!
4. Organizing Transportation
From getting you both to the venue to making sure guests can get from Point A to Point B, he can research and book transportation. Bonus points if he handles the getaway car for that epic grand exit.
5. Music & Entertainment
Does he have strong opinions about the wedding playlist? Great! He can work with the DJ or band to make sure the music reflects both your tastes (and yes, maybe even compromise on that one song you can’t stand but he loves).
6. Handling the Bar & Signature Drinks
If you’re having a bar, let him take charge! From choosing the beer and wine selection to coming up with a fun signature cocktail, this is a fun and stress-free way for him to contribute.
7. Writing His Own Vows (Or at Least Practicing Them!)
If you’re doing personalized vows, make sure he’s actually writing them—well before the wedding! No one wants a last-minute panic the night before because he forgot.
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8. Taking Care of the Marriage License
It’s not the most glamorous task, but it’s essential. He can research what you need, schedule the appointment, and make sure all the paperwork is sorted before the wedding.
9. Managing the Honeymoon Plans
If he wants a real win, let him take over the honeymoon planning! Flights, accommodations, activities—he can handle the logistics while you focus on the wedding.
10. Handling the Wedding Rings
From choosing his band to making sure both rings are safely stored before the ceremony, this one is all him. Plus, if you’re doing an engraving or custom design, he can take the initiative here too.
11. Coordinating Wedding Day Surprises
Whether it’s writing a heartfelt letter for you to read before the ceremony, planning a sweet gift, or organizing a surprise dance, he can add his own thoughtful touches to make the day extra special.
12. Being the Go-To Problem Solver
On the big day, he can be the point person for anything that pops up. If a groomsman forgot his tie, if the caterer has a question, or if the timeline needs adjusting, he can step in so you can stay stress-free.
The wedding isn’t just your big day—it’s his too! While you might have a vision for every little detail, letting him handle some of these tasks will make the process feel more balanced and, honestly, way more enjoyable. Plus, teamwork in wedding planning? That’s just setting you up for a great partnership in marriage.
So, brides and grooms, go ahead—delegate! You got this and you’ll be glad you did.
